Your children need your words and actions of encouragement.
From a very young age children want and need to feel worthwhile and valued. Children need to be accepted and encouraged while they grow and discover their own direction in life. Therefore, raise your children to see that they are a worthwhile participant in life and that they can achieve?
You can do this by offering your child words of encouragement and show them actions of acceptance, rather than giving constant correction and criticism.
From birth, a baby can sense when an adult accepts them:
- Through a calming voice and regular eye contact a baby’s soul is nurtured.
- With a gentle cuddle and an affirming hug a baby’s heart is soothed.
You can reach the heart and soul of your child by giving positive acknowledgement when they do something right. Ensure they feel encouraged when you are in their presence as their heart is not won through criticism but acceptance and believing in who they are.
Words of Encouragement
Praise a child’s behaviour rather than always picking up on the things that they do wrong. When anyone is encouraged rather than corrected it makes them try harder the next time.
Here are some phrases you might like to use when you praise your child’s behaviour. If you include their name (………) in the sentence it will make an even greater positive impact.
“That’s it; you’ve got it ……”
“You’re doing a good job getting the pegs out of the basket ………..”
“You’re learning fast………”
“Way to go, high five…….!”
“Keep on trying …….., you will get there”
“…….., now that’s what I call a fine job of packing away the blocks”
“Wow, good remembering to shut the door………”
“You make painting look easy………….”
“Now you’ve figured it out; great page turning ……….”
“……..you’re getting better with cleaning your teeth everyday”
Talk to your child about how to manage their feelings. Explain to them that it is ok to feel a certain way and then help them do something that will make them feel better. (For example: Feeling SAD: “it’s ok to feel sad, Sam. When I feel sad I look at a colourful book and that makes me feel happy. Come on, let’s find one and look at it together”)
This article was brought to you by Jan Murray, Private Child Health Consultant who is an internationally renowned expert in her field. Jan encourages parents in the area of infant sleep, nutrition, activities and family balance. She publishes regular ezine and blog articles to provide free parenting tips, tools and resources to educate and support those caring for young babies and children.